Aaron Stradecke holds his soon-to-be three-year-old daughter Audrey on his lap as he reflects on the death of his wife and mother of his three children, Mallory Cooper-Stradecke. at the age of 28.

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He speaks these words towards the end of an interview in his Saanich townhouse near the University of Victoria.

Stradecke香蕉视频直播檚 other children, four-year-old Tristan and his seven-year-old sister Phaedra, have already left for school. The only other person in the house is Stradecke香蕉视频直播檚 sister Carol, who has come from Edmonton to help out in any way that she can. This morning she is cleaning the kitchen, with the sound of dishes clanging and banging in the background.

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It is a Monday morning in the middle of May, one week after Mallory would have turned 29, had it not been for a rare genetic disease called Lynch syndrome. That led to cancer of the stomach, which then spread to her right lung, notwithstanding surgery that removed most of her stomach, some 40 lymph nodes and large portions of esophagus, and several rounds of chemotherapy before and after surgery.

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Mallory香蕉视频直播檚 death cut a wide circle of grief that includes three young children and a husband trying to cope with his own feelings.

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Stradecke said his children have on balance responded to the death of their mother as well as one might expect.

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This complex, shifting emotional landscape unfolds against the backdrop of economic anxieties. A carpenter by trade, Stradecke has not worked since mid-December 2017 to help care for Mallory, and currently receives income assistance. While his employer has been very generous, Stradecke says it could be a while until he goes back to work.

A GoFundMe campaign , and Lambrick Park Preschool is putting together a barbecue fundraiser at Gyro Park on May 27 for the family.

The absence of a will by Mallory has further complicated economic matters. has raised $16,525. But the unused portions of this fund remain inaccessible, because they rest in an account under Mallory香蕉视频直播檚 name, which Stradecke cannot access until a court grants him control of her estate, including her bank accounts.

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Stradecke believes that his wife did not write a will because she was not ready to let go.

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Mallory, in other words, might have been in denial about what was happening to her. 香蕉视频直播淪he really wasn香蕉视频直播檛 ready to let go. She was only 28 years old.香蕉视频直播�

While any death raises existential questions, the death of a young woman and mother approaching the prime of her life appears especially harsh and raises the obvious question: why?

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Stradecke, however, does know one thing. He has received immense support from friends and family, and he could not be more grateful for it.

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